The Grey Matters Blog

Everything you need to know about anxiety, depression, trauma & PTSD

How does the window of tolerance affect your mental health?

By Venka | Apr 22, 2020

So how does the window of tolerance affect your mental health? The window of tolerance is the zone of arousal in which you are able to function most effectively. Stress of traumatic or negative events can ‘push’ you out of your window of tolerance. When you have been affected by trauma, you may respond to […]

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Window of tolerance – why do you find it difficult to cope when traumatised

By Venka | Apr 22, 2020

WHAT IS THE WINDOW OF TOLERANCE? The window of tolerance is the zone of arousal in which you are able to function most effectively.  When you are within this range, you are able to readily receive, process and integrate information and manage everyday life without much difficulty. This optimal window was first named by Dan […]

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What is codependency?

By Venka | Apr 21, 2020

The Grey Matters  Blog I know codependency. I recognise when I see it. I was raised in a home where there was no separation of emotion. When my mother felt an emotion, I felt it. Anxiety, rage and sadness flooded the house.  There were no boundaries. I created this so you can start to understand […]

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How to heal from codependency

By Venka | Apr 21, 2020

The Grey Matters Blog Everything you need to know about anxiety, depression, trauma & PTSD Do you suffer from codependency? The problem with codependency is the relationship with YOURSELF, because that is what gets reflected in your relationships with OTHERS. Your thoughts, feelings and actions revolve around that other person, activity or substance, and you […]

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What Is Toxic Positivity?

By Venka | Apr 21, 2020

The Grey Matters  Blog Everything you need to know about anxiety, depression, trauma, PTSD & CPTSD So what is Toxic Positivity? Toxic positivity is the excessive and ineffective overgeneralisation of a happy and overoptimistic state in any situation- denial, minimisation and invalidation of genuine emotional experience. Of course, even the tiniest threads of hope can […]

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Are you living in the past or future? Anxiety, trauma or depression.

By Venka | Apr 21, 2020

An unexamined life is not worth living. But if all you are doing is SCRUTINISING – You are not living.” Is your mind living in the past or the future? Are you present? People who live in the past, and they tend to suffer from trauma and depression. People who only think of the future […]

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What is trauma?

By Venka | Apr 21, 2020

Trauma is mostly believed to be caused by a singular “big” event. Like something big that involved severe abuse or neglect. When I started my practice, I noticed a pattern with people who had ‘normal’ or ‘supportive’ families, yet they struggled with severe anxiety or depression. Many were high achievers yet functional addicts. They found […]

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What is anxiety?

By Venka | Apr 21, 2020

Think of anxiety as a network of neural clusters in the brain that create an area of association. For example, a piano player will have an area of association that correlates to the hands and feet used to play the instrument. Neuroscientists like to say: “The cells that fire together, wire together.” The more the […]

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Can trauma cause anxiety or depression?

By Venka | Apr 21, 2020

Usually when I treat a person for anxiety or depression, they have tried every other single therapy. It may have helped a bit, but it never resolved their issues. I am their last shot. In my experience, anxiety and depression are often symptoms of trauma. And by treating the symptoms and not the cause, you […]

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